So we have two different kinds of flattery in the game, which are based on different kinds of things. Praise isn’t always bad, but it can become manipulative when it has an ulterior motive to influence student behavior versus expressing genuine heartfelt feelings. Manipulative praise can hinder a learner’s ability to reach their fullest potential. Chances are they’re trying to get you to do something for you. Insincere flattery is frustrating to handle, and you might find yourself telling the person to shut their mouth.
As sad as it is to believe, some praisers are merely doing so to set you up for a request or favor in the future. They’ve played into the concept that “flattery will get you everywhere” and may be complimenting you to win approval or even forgiveness for some wrongdoing. This is a common problem with people who are so used to a culture that they don’t realize that they don’t recognize the culture anymore. The on-screen keyboard can be used to type English or Indian language words.
This can happen if a parent modeled this behavior, he or she was not allowed to voice feelings directly, or some mental illnesses. It is still not OK, but it can be a learned behavior.The person might respond with a sincere apology, which you can choose to accept or not.People may become defensive and make up excuses. This is a sign that he or she knows it is wrong but is not ready to own up to it.
And not a copycat, even though copying is the biggest sign of flattery. Thanks to all authors for creating a page that has been read 37,202 times. Include your email address to get a message when this question is answered.
If someone thought you’d fall prey to false flattery, they may see you as lacking self-esteem. They assumed that by merely throwing a disingenuous compliment your way, you’d give in to their demands or view them favorably. If you tend to rollover after false praise, you may need to work on your confidence. Some people may use the phrase ‘insincere flattery’ to describe insults or other derogatory terms said to them by others. However, insincere flattery involves someone laying insincere compliments on your to manipulate your attitude toward them. If you have an acquaintance who regularly offers insincere compliments, you might choose to confront them by having them really explain what is meant by the statement.
Try reading a confidence boosting audiobook if your self-esteem becomes a constant problem for you and you begin taking things too personally. One good option is The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem by Dr. Nathaniel Branden. It is likely very hard to not respond to hurtful comments mixed into the “compliment”. This sort of approach is best for situations in which responding in a more frank and forthright manner is not advisable.
She worked for Rolling Stone, Us Weekly, and Men’s Journal before leaving publishing to pursue her passion for connecting people. Erika has been featured on Lifetime, the Philadelphia Inquirer, and CBS as well as in Thrillist, Elite Daily, Men’s Health, Fast Company, and Refinery29. An insincere compliment can bring up feelings of shame or self-doubt. Give yourself a time-out if needed to collect yourself.
Remind yourself of your positive traits, or call up an authentic friend who will help you see the positives. Whether you’re delighted because you were recognized or secretly pissed because the person’s adoration is dishonest, take time to feel what you’re feeling. Don’t ignore the way you are feeling, concer meaning or this may begin to chip away at your self-esteem, especially if you do not do something to create boundaries with the person. The mood of a person can be a bit off, but the mood of a person who does not flatter is usually the most important factor that dictates the level of flattery.
Negative descriptions of flattery range at least as far back in history as the Bible. In the Divine Comedy, Dante depicts flatterers wading in human excrement, stating that their words were the equivalent of excrement, in the second bolgia of 8th Circle of Hell. They say the highest form of flattery is impersonation.